Understanding and setting boundaries is crucial for effective leadership and personal well-being. Boundaries are not selfish; they guide how others should treat you, benefiting everyone involved.

Boundaries are clear expressions of needs and expectations that establish guidance, limits, and promote healthy and respectful relationships for ourselves and others. For you as a leader, this means creating an environment where everyone knows what is expected, leading to more effective and respectful interactions.

Boundaries allow you to be authentically yourself, saying yes and no because it's protecting something that is important to you, not because you feel obligated. They help you lead with energy, not exhaustion, and focus on what truly matters. Boundaries enable you to impact others from a place of abundance, not lack, and prioritise self-care and well-being and with practise, without guilt. They stop you from taking on excessive responsibilities that don't align with your priorities and goals.

Additionally, boundaries help you stop seeking external validation by recognising your own worth and value. When you set and maintain boundaries, you affirm your needs and priorities, which boosts your self-esteem and confidence. Instead of relying on others' approval, you validate yourself by honouring your own limits and desires. This shift in perspective helps you focus on your own goals and well-being, reducing the need for external affirmation.

Why Boundaries Matter

Selfless, not Selfish

Setting strong boundaries is a selfless act. I said selfless, not selfish, as many people believe! When you make boundaries clear, you're taking care of yourself and others by providing a guidebook on how to interact with you respectfully and effectively. And as a female leader, you are a role model, whether you see yourself as one or not. By having clear and kind boundaries, you are also role modeling boundaries to your team and colleagues that need to develop in this area to thrive too.

For example, if you set a boundary that your workday ends at 5 pm, you show your team the importance of work-life balance, encouraging them to respect their own boundaries as well. This can be done by leaving work when you say you will the majority of the time.

As someone known as a boundaries ninja, my belief in this area is:

Suggested Belief:

When I set strong boundaries, it is a selfless (not selfish) act!

Kindness and Respect

By setting boundaries with kindness and respect where relevant, you create more fulfilling and impactful leadership and careers. This helps in maintaining healthy relationships and productive work environments. For instance, when you assertively communicate your limits, such as not responding to emails on your days off, you teach others to value and respect your time and energy.

Suggested Belief:

I set boundaries with kindness and respect – where relevant - creating more fulfilling, authentic, and impactful leadership, careers, and lives.

Non-negotiable Wellbeing

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean always pleasing others. Sometimes, maintaining boundaries may upset or disappoint others, but it may be necessary sometimes to allow you to prioritise your well-being, which is non-negotiable. If someone pushes against your boundaries, remember that being kind to yourself is just as important as being kind to others. Your well-being is not negotiable.

Suggested Belief:

Setting boundaries may require upsetting or disappointing others, but I do so knowing that my well-being is not negotiable.

Old Beliefs Versus Authentic Self

Every time you buy into old unhelpful beliefs that prevent you from setting boundaries, you step away from your authentic self. Embracing new, healthier beliefs about boundaries allows you to be true to yourself and lead more effectively. For instance, believing that "boundaries help me be more effective and present" can replace the old notion that boundaries are selfish.

Developing new beliefs around boundaries is essential to support this shift. Here are some suggested beliefs to help you embrace and enforce boundaries effectively:

Suggested Beliefs:

"Boundaries allow me to show up as my best self."

"Setting boundaries is an act of respect for myself and others."

"Clear boundaries help me maintain my energy and focus."

Exploring and embracing new beliefs about boundaries is essential for your personal and professional growth. By protecting your energy and focusing on what truly matters, you can enhance your effectiveness and lead more authentically. Start today by identifying one area where you need to set a stronger boundary and communicate it clearly to your team. This will not only improve your leadership but also reinforce your commitment to self-respect and well-being.

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